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15 Painless Ways to Develop a Positive Attitude
Categories : Stress Management: Living a Stress Free Life
1) Believe in yourself
Leading a positive and successful life starts with you. If you want others to believe in you then you must believe in yourself. Without believing in yourself and the good you do then it will be nearly impossible any one else will believe it.
2) Reframe a stressful situation
Reframing is a technique whereby you look at a situation from a different perspective by changing it from a negative to a positive. An example of reframing is to tell yourself, "I am not going to get the promotion," to a reframed perspective, "The competition for the promotion will be fierce. However I have a good of chance as anyone else and this is my plan..."
3) Use positive words
What we say and how we say influence not just us but others too. Trying replacing negative words with more positive words. A few examples below with suggested positive words:
|Negative word or phrase||Replacement positive word or phrase|
|Unfortunately||Currently, I have looked into this for you; however, ...|
|Not||limited, restricted, outside of what I can provide|
|Disgust||disappointed, not reaching full potential|
|don't / do not||consider, review, compare|
|won't / will not||it is my preference....|
|can't / cannot||my skills, given my current workload achieving what you are asking is very difficult and I prefer.... my workload makes it difficult|
|impossible||it is possible under these conditions, given the parameters you have stated I believe we need to look at other options|
4) Do something good
Nothing creates a more positive feeling when performing something good for someone else.
5) Continuous improvement
Continuous improvement is a word that gets used a lot in change and service management. It refers to looking at events that have completed and learning from them to make improvements. To help learn how to become more positive, it may be helpful to keep a journal or a log of events. Then using the recorded incidents to help you become more positive.
6) Take Responsibility
Being positive and being able to manage stress means, having an introverted view. Having an introverted view means, you see yourself being able to exercise control over what happens to you. This means, being able to responsibility for your actions and not trying to blame others for your shortcomings.
7) Be Proactive
Being positive and managing stress means doing something to prepare in anticipation of an event occurring instead of reacting to when they occur. This can mean, as discussed in '7 Easy Steps to Manage Stress', taking the necessary steps to reduce or eliminate a stress trigger.
8) Focus on the Good
As discussed, in '7 Easy Steps to Manage Stress,' stress is perceptual and it is easy to focus on the negative. Being positive means, also seeing the good. Even in the worst possible tragedies there is still opportunity to find some good.
9) Stop believing you are entitled
This is closely related to number 6. Being positive means ending the negative mindset of being entitled. Instead the focus needs to be on what can I do to achieve what I want and how do I do it in a positive way.
10) Use Humor
This closely relates to number 8. Good and bad are all relative to our perspective. Using humor, as discussed in '7 Easy Steps to Manage Stress,' when something stressful happens using humor can limit the impact and help reduce stress.
11) Seek out others who are positive
It is one thing to be a positive person. However, if you are surrounded by people who are negative then it makes remaining positive difficult. As you develop a more positive perspective, seek out others who share a similar viewpoint.
12) Don't rely on others to provide affirmation for you
Developing a positive attitude, making changes in your life, and achieving your goals as great. However, do not believe others need to affirm your worth. It is up to you to affirm your worth and it is up to you to recognize your achievements.
13) Plan your reaction
Plan your reaction is closely aligned to being proactive and managing stress and identifying your triggers, which is discussed in '7 Easy Steps to Manage Stress,'If you know what triggers your stress or face repeated similar situation then knowing how to react will help.
14) Walk away
If a situation is becoming too stressful or you feel you are becoming negative, then walking way for at least 5 minutes to relax is a good idea.
15) Take time to learn
The more you learn the more options you have. Taking time for self-development will help you develop a more positive attitude along with giving you more options to handle stressful situations.
Positive attitude and managing stress are very closely related. Developing a positive attitude does not occur overnight. It takes time, practice, and trial and error. The more you can develop a positive attitude and apply it to situations the more likely you will feel less stress and the key to developing a positive attitude comes down to you and how you view your world. Once you are able to accept there is no self-entitlement, you have accountability, and others do not need to provide you with affirmation the more likely you will begin developing the attitude you need to live a life with a manageable level of stress. Finally, a positive attitude is a life-long commitment that can provide a heap of benefit to you. So, what do you have to lose besides trying developing a positive attitude.